I'm writing this mostly to clear my head. I have several friends on FB that have been pregnant since I've had my son and I'm afraid I may have been offending them accidentally. You see many of my friends are of the "crunchy" sort and I probably would be too if it were not for all my experiences. I originally wanted the midwife homebirth, no drugs route. And then my complicated mess began. I was diagnosed with a septate uterus and then I had a miscarriage after taking fertility drugs. Then it was 2 surgeries and a devastating miscarriage at 17 weeks which involved an induction and a hospital delivery of a fetus that was so immature we couldn't clearly tell the gender but we could easily see her resemblance to my husband and now my son.
When I did have a successful pregnancy with my son, it wasn't normal like most of my lovely friends have had. Heck, I didn't know most of you while I was pregnant so you only know from what I've told you after the fact. I had a complicated pregnancy, lots of cervical checks by ultrasound and growth checks and non-stress tests. It included injections twice a day to keep my blood from clotting and progesterone support until the second trimester. At 23 weeks I was hospitalized and given betamethasone to speed up the growth of my son's lungs because they were afraid I would deliver early. I was bedrested from that point until I had my son at 38 weeks and 5 days. I had to have a c-section because of my bleeding risk and because my son was frank breech and had been since about 20 weeks; my septum that I had had removed back in '05 had just enough of a lip to keep him from going anywhere but where he was.
I'm not typing all this because I want anyone to feel sorry for my experience. I know every day what I went through to bring my son here and if I though the outcome would be the same I would gladly do it again. I'm saying all this though because I wanted you to know that my experience wasn't normal and I can't relate to the normal experience very well. I'm sorry if my experiences offend you when I chime in with how things went for me. That's not my intention at all. I'm also not trying to be a bummer - promise! I'm always so glad when things do go normally for other people and I'm a little sad when they don't. Oh and I always worry when you shirk off medical help in favor of the "natural way", but that is because of my experience...try not to take that too personally or offensive either- you'd do the same in my shoes.
Anyhow, it always makes me emotional to have to recant all the details of things prior to my son's arrival so I'm done.